Posted in Business, communication on Aug 10th, 2010
Email provides very little in the way of emotional content. The “tone” and “body language” that is in an email – if any – is usually seen in the eyes of the receiver and is often misinterpreted. The key here is that when you send an email, you don’t get to see the person’s reaction when they read the message. Sure, they may send you a reply, but it is often filtered and you may miss key messages that you would have heard or seen had you communicated in person , by phone or via an electronic medium such a Skype. The feedback you get when you see or hear a reaction can be invaluable.
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When we find fulfilling purpose and meaning in what we do, it’s a whole lot easier to put the kind of effort in that will lead to the kind of exceptional results that people and organizations are constantly searching for. So how come we seem to be focused on bigger titles, bigger salaries, bigger offices and other “stuff” when we should be thinking about finding work that we are passionate about. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with setting goals to achieve these things but is it really worth it if we are not doing work we really like to get there?
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On a personal level, I would like to think that I am open to hearing the view of others because they can enrich our own thoughts and beliefs and may result in a change in perspective that emerges from a deeper understanding of the topic of discussion.
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I’m not saying that it is easy to exercise your power to choose your response in a difficult situation but I am saying that we need to start believing that we own responsibility for the actions we take. What we need to work on is learning how to maintain control in order to make good choices.
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Posted in Business, HR, Human Resources on Mar 23rd, 2010
Through my work helping organizations to tackle their “people issues”, it seems that a common thread running through many of the issues is the concept of accountability. When something doesn’t go as planned, the reactions of people involved often focus on ensuring that everyone else knows that it wasn’t their fault. This reaction could have many explanations: past punishment for having a part in a negative outcome; a person’s self-esteem could be at risk by admitting imperfections; perceived negative consequences related to ownership of the outcome of a situation; and the list goes on.
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Posted in Business, HR, Human Resources on Mar 9th, 2010
Difficult Dialogue is . . . difficult! It is often very hard for both parties to “jump in” to tough conversations. Knowing this gives you the opportunity to acknowledge the dynamics that are at play. If a boss or a key client has changed their position on an issue because of your conversation – let them know how much you respect them for being open to a different way of thinking.
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Posted in Business, HR, Human Resources on Mar 2nd, 2010
Once you have made it through Be READY, Get SET, you are ready to GO into a difficult dialogue. A key part of staying in dialogue is reducing feelings of vulnerability – for both parties. This means that you want to focus on building and maintaining a “WARM CLIMATE”.
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Posted in Business, HR, Human Resources on Feb 19th, 2010
Difficult Dialogue is hard to start. If you get the opening wrong, you’ll likely go off the rails pretty fast and you’ll spend time and energy trying to regroup. The key to a good start is to affirm the relationship, communicate “what’s in it for them” and share your positive intentions.
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Posted in Business, HR, Human Resources on Feb 2nd, 2010
If you have a difficult situation you need to address, think about the facts that you are aware of and the assumptions you are making with respect to the facts. Can you confirm your assumptions? If not, can you get more information before you initiate a difficult conversation?
Being open with yourself and with the other person will be very helpful in managing a difficult conversation and in building trust. If you don’t feel you can be open, maybe that’s what you should be talking about!
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Posted in Business, HR, Human Resources on Jan 26th, 2010
Once you have determined what you want (and what you don’t want) the next step is to identify what you have in common with the person you are in dialogue with. If there is no common ground – there is little basis for a relationship.
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